Victims Assistance Center of Jefferson County, Inc.

The following checklist may help you decide if you or someone you know is being abused.

Does your partner:

• constantly criticize you and your abilities as a spouse or partner, parent or employee?
• behave in an over-protective manner or become extremely jealous?
• threaten to hurt you, your children, pets, family members, friends or himself?
• prevent you from seeing family or friends?
• get suddenly angry or lose his temper?
• destroy personal property or throw things around?
• deny you access to family assets like bank accounts, credit cards, or the car, or control all finances and force you to account for what you spend?
• withhold medication or deny you access to health care?
• threaten to reveal your HIV status?
• force you to work in jobs not of your choosing?
• use intimidation or manipulation to control you or your children?
• hit, punch, slap, kick, shove, choke or bite you?
• deny you access to your immigration documents?
• prevent you from going where you want to, when you want to, and with whomever you want to?
• make you have sex when you don't want to or do things sexually that you don't want to do?
• control your expression of gender identity or sexual orientation?
• threaten to out you if you are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transsexual?
• humiliate or embarrass you in front of other people?